You know they say it’s all in your mind, well this maybe true. Your state of mind can have a large affect on your ability to get an erection.
Let’s say you are with “The Hottest Woman on the Planet,” and your mind is somewhere worrying about, look, I’ve got this gal who is just dripping sex all over the place, can I get it up? If you keep thinking like that; I’ll give you the short answer right now, NOPE, THAT BOAT WON’T SAIL!!!!
Worrying about whether you’ll be able to please your partner can make it impossible for you to do just that.
An effect of stress hormones is to constrict blood vessels. So if you have less blood flowing to the penis it makes it more demanding to get an erection. Men who normally don’t have any trouble getting excited can become unable to get an erection when they’re overcome by performance anxiety.
What can you do to over come performance anxiety.
Be open with your partner. Talk with your lady about your anxiety, this can help ease some of your worries. Trying to reach a solution together might actually bring the both of you closer and improve your sexual relationship.
Get intimate in other ways. There are many ways to be close without going the whole nine yards. Give your partner a sensual massage or take a warm bath together. Take turns pleasing each other with masturbation so you don’t always have to feel pressured to have sex.
Exercise. Working out won’t only make you feel better about your body’s appearance, but it will also improve your stamina in bed.
Distract your mind. Put on some romantic music or a sexy movie while you make love. Think about something that turns you on. Taking your mind off of your sexual performance can take away the worries that are stopping you from getting excited.
Relax. Take it easy on yourself. Don’t beat yourself up about your appearance or ability in bed.
Use these actions above for performance anxiety and you’ll return to having a healthy and enjoyable sex life.